FREE ESSAY ON ITS ALL IN THE FAMILY

ITS ALL IN THE FAMILY

Elena de Juan
It is all about the Family
A part of family structure is family dynamics, which together create a family unit.
Family, by dictionary definition, means the parents and children alone; the children as
distinguished from the parents. This reveals how the relationships within the family are
important. It is the Parents and Children alone and how they interact that can exhibit a
family tie. When a parent and child connect, it starts a thread in the bracelet of that
certain family, and, depending on how many bonds there are in the family, shows how
tightly woven that bracelet is. The bonds hold the family together. The novel, Pride and
Prejudice, by Jane Austen, illustrates a family in which the members tend to have small
bonds with those that are similar to them. My family, on the other hand, demonstrates the
opposite, where the differences bring members together to form more secured bonds. 
A weakness in a family is the difference between parents and it is the most tremendous
feebleness when it comes to the point where everything that is being said has a second
meaning. When the reader first opens the novel, he/she reads a dialogue between Mrs.
Bennet and Mr. Bennet. It is a typical dialogue for the Bennets. There is so much
confutation that the reader knows from that point on that the Bennet's relationship is no
great relationship. Since Mrs. Bennet is a phony, claustrophobic, sheltered woman, and
Mr. Bennet is a funny, sarcastic, realistic man, the two tend to disagree a lot. Mrs.
Bennet believes she is perfectly sane and that the most important thing is to have her
children married off well. Although, Mr. Bennet sees it as a huge joke and believes the
girls should marry whom they want and should spend their time doing what they please.
Even on the first page of the entire novel Mrs. Bennet is over excited about Bingley's
arrival; OH! Single, my dear, to be sure! A single man of good fortune; four or five
thousand and a year. What a fine thing for our girls! Mr. Bennet, without a hesitation
and in a sarcastic voice replies, How so? How can it affect them? (5) Since both Bennets
are so different, they can not find a stable grasp from each other, so they look to their
children. Each has a close, bonding relationship with one of their daughters. Mr. Bennet
has a very witty, full of sarcasm kinship with Ms. Elizabeth Bennet. They both are very
down to earth and are very frank in all that they say. For instance, during the scene
where Mr. Collins asks Elizabeth to marry him and she replies with a no, Mr. Bennet
states to both Mrs. Bennet and Ms. Elizabeth, An unhappy alternative is before you,
Elizabeth. From this day forward you will be a stranger to one of your parents- Your
mother will never see you again if you do not marry Mr. Collins, and I will never see you
if you do. The reaction from Mrs. Bennet is different from Elizabeth. Ms. Elizabeth
Bennet knows that the marriage would be a very convent marriage. Although, she also knows
it is not worth all the trouble to marry someone that is so false and boring, because if
she were to, then she would be apathetic for the rest of her life. Mr. Bennet is making
this an amusement for him because he believes Collins is a worthless, half-witted
imbecile as well, and knows Elizabeth would never marry him, and so he agrees with her. 
In my family, our bonds tend to lean towards the member with which we have the most
compatible personality, while having different characteristics as people. Each individual
sees another for who they are, not what they could be. If a person were to look at Emily
and me, they could see that we are totally different in personalities and in how we deal
with situations, but we are inseparable. We love to be in each other's company. Each of
us knows we cannot change the other, yet we still do not mind the other's differences
whether inside or out. Emily has blonde hair and loves to have books and markers around
her; I have brown hair and love to have my computer and pens around me. Since Emily and I
do not always see eye to eye on things, we can have some small disputes over small
things. Nevertheless, looking at my family as a whole shows that for the most part my
theory is true. My father best gets along with my sister, Anna, and they are both total
opposites. My father is a larger man and is hardworking. He dislikes animals because he
is allergic to them, and loves food. My sister Anna loves dogs and cats and is a short,
skinny, woman in her early twenties. She loves to lounge around and loves to work out,
unlike my father. My mother, as well, gets along best with her complete opposite, my
brother, Gene. Gene is a slow thinker and a non-Christian while my mother is strong in
her beliefs and is a very educated southern speaker. 
If you were to take a family and make it a puzzle, only certain pieces would fit
together, and no two duplicates would be able to fit in the puzzle together. That is why,
although we are all so different, we all complete my family's puzzle, bringing us closer
together as a family and making us stronger as a whole. Some people in the world have
relationships like those in Pride and Prejudice. Although, I have yet to meet someone in
the Twentieth Century that does not believe family and love come first, and in Jane
Austen's novel, this belief is non-existent. The novel illustrates that families in which
the members tend to have more loosely tied bonds tend to have more inner problems and do
not connect as a whole. Yet to my family, although we have those differences, in the end
they all bring us back together to make what I call a wonderful and united family.